As a parent, you have high expectations of your children and you want the best for them and their future. So when you get your kid’s report card and notice a dip in grades, whether it’s from straight A’s to B’s or A’s or B’s to C’s, D’s, even F’s, what should you do?
In this blog post, we’ll be talking about things that parents should or shouldn’t do in the case of low grades.
Don’t do that:
First, let’s start off with what you shouldn’t do.
Criticise, condemn, or complain:
As Dale Carnegie said in the book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, “don’t criticise, condemn, or complain.”
Your child has feelings and you don’t know the whole story or what exactly is going on inside their head. The grades happened, now it’s time to take action and get your child back on track.
Trust is important. You might wonder if the computer, video games, or mobile phone is to blame for your kid’s decline in grades.
It’s not a good idea to take away your kid’s phone and look through it, since that is a betrayal of trust.
To get grades back up, it might be a good idea to moderate time spent on hobbies and extracurriculars, but taking your child out of all fun activities isn’t healthy. This also will not help raise their grades if they’re struggling with maths concepts or reading comprehension.
Sports or the arts can increase a child’s confidence. Emphasise time management and prioritising tasks. There should be enough time for homework and fun.
Offer external rewards
Rewards sound tempting and can motivate your child in the short term, but it’s important that motivation to do well in school comes from within.
Ignore your kid’s side of the story
Your child’s teacher will have their side of the story and it’s important to listen, but you should also listen to your kid.
In the next section, we will suggest things to talk about with your child.
Do this instead:
Instead of assuming or complaining, ask your kid what exactly they are having trouble with at school.
It may not always be something academic. It could be issues with classmates, teachers, or mental health. Mental health can tie in with performance at school. If mental health is a concern, talk to your child’s GP.
Also ask what concepts or subjects they are having trouble with in school so you can find the best way to help them. Talk to your child’s teachers to get more insight and feedback. Be polite when talking to the teachers and ask them questions.
Encourage Learning and Curiosity
According to a study from the University of Michigan, the best thing to do when your child’s grades are low is to “create a home environment that stimulates learning.”
When parents provide resources and opportunities for learning like books or trips to the library or museum, students have higher academic achievement.
It’s natural to want to react as soon as you see the report card, but take a deep breath and allow yourself time to calm down and view the situation rationally. When you are calm, you can better handle the situation and your kid will feel better speaking to you.
Work together to figure out a study/homework plan
Ultimately, this is your child’s life and it’s important to make sure they are involved and have their say. Set realistic goals together and work out a schedule for homework and study.
Tutoring has a lot of benefits. It can increase confidence and motivation, it’s more individualised than lessons at school, and it’s a safe and friendly environment that encourages success.
Seeing low grades is disappointing, but it can be solved by talking to your child and their teacher and asking them questions, setting goals, and creating an environment that encourages learning.